Learning to Communicate
It is Saturday morning, March 5th, and I am finally back in writing a blog. What happened? You don’t want to know, but I am learning more and more of the value of communicating with others and letting your yes be yes and your no be no.
And you thought this was going to be a lesson on how to hear and communicate with spirits. Sorry.
This path of life that you and I are walking in the present day and time is what determines the next steps. And one lesson that we all have is learning how to communicate. It’s just not with words, but with the grunts and giggles, the body language, the eyes, the little things done…..it’s all in the communication folks. As I tell my school students when it’s not time to be talking but focusing on the work at hand, “No talking, and that includes not only lip service, but eye and head nod service.” Even the 5 year olds get this.
Pay attention to those around us, and pay attention to your own actions. I know there has been times when I’ve made a face or nodded my head, and a friend suddenly say, “What’s that all about?” It usually was nothing but me thinking or adusting in my seat, but he or she took it as a sign of some sort of “hidden” word by me. I do need to add, we all (including me) have our moments of reading into things too much.
When a spirit loved ones comes to me, they often will use head nods, hand gestures, or even a certain way of standing to validate who they are. The living will recognize any of these instantly because there was a love of the person, and an understanding and acknowledgment of the body language…if I may call it that.
One lesson I’ve learned and I would hope others would take to heart is this, when a friend/acquaintance is venting or perhaps spewing words about a situation or someone else………….try to remember times when you did the very same thing, saying nonsense stuff that you really didn’t mean or in your anger was just being stupid……..then take those words heard, toss them out to the great beyond, and don’t go repeating them to another loved one (or to the one it was towards) knowing how much more unnecessary hurt it would cause.
The little saying, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never harm me.”
Uh..when that comes up in your thoughts……toss that one out too. Words can hurt and cut deeper than anything else.